Sugar baby aspirations? Think twice, sugar...

Q: Haley! I didnt want to ask this without being embarrassed, but I saw your post awhile back about girls living in the playboy mansion. I didnt really read through it but, i must admit that i am kind of in a deperate time in my life and looking for some income. i have been learning about girls who act as partners to welathy older men for money and it doesnt seem that bad. while some men are lousy it doesnt really seem like they are all just after looks, some want companionship. i know youll probably be mad at me but do you think that there is any case where it's okay to go with a rich guy for a while, even though its using him, thanks.


--Anonymous


A: Sweetheart, you hit the nail on the head when you said I'd be a little upset! But, as I've promised and stated on here, I am not here to morally regulate people, just offer my advice.


We are living in a world that is increasingly women-friendly in the way of corporate advancement and personal rights, yet more and more women are opting for a liaison with a  "wealthy, older man"--purely for financial benefit. I understand that you are in a financially disadvantaged place right now, but who isn't at some point in their life? Most people, including some of the most successful people on Earth, have had money problems that were probably a lot worse than yours. 


You state that these men aren't all "lousy" and that not all of them are just after looks. If that were true, don't you think you'd see more older men going for older women with greater moral character? Even if some of these men DO go for women to find a personality, there'd still be a one-sided case of using by the girl. 


To answer your question, no, I don't think it's ever moral to go with a man simply for money. There are plenty of kind, compatible men with a decent drive to provide a supporting income, so find that someday. For now, stick to your own talents. You don't need to depend on anyone else but yourself. Besides, being with a rich guy is guaranteed to have its less-than-glamorous points. If you had read the article I posted, Hugh Hefner is basically nothing more than a stingy octogenarian who orders girls young enough to be his great-granddaughters to have (terrible) sex with him and get Barbie-inspired plastic surgery. Does that sound like a life you want?


--Dr. O.